Not a Bit Changed

A Memoir of Generational Trauma and Kinship Foster Care


After growing up in a household shattered by addiction, violence, and deeply stigmatizing felony convictions, Sarah McCaffrey served for eight years in the Marine Corps and completed enough education to reinvent herself. She had a caring husband, two self-assured kids, and a stable career in the information field.

Despite a sense of escape, Sarah found herself tethered to her old identity. She and her family pursued adoption and a foster license, and for three years, they created a safe place for children from chaotic circumstances. But when her young nephew—son of her most significant abuser—entered foster care, Sarah finally had to decide who she was, if she could accept with compassion the full breadth of her family’s history, and how to help those who most needed defending.

This memoir is a work in progress.

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